Nikki from Australia
Nikki Hunt came to a learning retreat with me about four years after her daughter was born. Her story is an inspiring and heart warming example of how it's never too late to nourish yourself as a mother. She is a hypnobirthing practitioner and doula.
I think most of us who find ourselves working in the pregnancy and postnatal industry have our own story that we are trying to work through. As you know, I had a wonderful birth experience with the birth of my daughter. But, the postpartum period for me was like a hurricane. I remember saying to my partner, "why would anyone CHOOSE to do this?" It was hell. It got easier, over time. But, it's still damn hard, and sometimes being a mum sucks.
Becoming a mother has also seen the most meaning and purpose come into my life, filled with the most amount of joy and pain. Pushing me beyond limits I never knew I had. And, really, isn't that ultimately what life is about? Life's paradox of utter joy and pain.
So, after meeting you, like boulders being rumbled in my mind and eventually polished, the concepts you shared have been simmering and working their way into my daily life. It has helped me to add another important layer within my journey, in determining my sense of self as Nikki and Mum.
I now feel equipped in how to recognise my own needs and their importance, so that I am able to respond to the needs of my daughter and my partner. Not to mention for my own sense of happiness and wellbeing. I am feeding myself foods that are good for me, particularly in an Ayurvedic sense. Warm, earthy foods which leave me feeling satisfied and soothed.
I cooked the pumpkin and spinach stew and my family and I love it -- it's now a regular. I have almost made my way through the entire cookbook and how I wish you could write more Ayurvedic recipes! Each recipe is so simple to put together, they are warm and nourishing and totally delicious. :)
Something has been disrupted within me since I began eating differently, and massaging my body. It's like I have stirred up the dark wounds that never healed after giving birth. I am listening to my body in a different way, understanding myself as a Vata and what my tendencies are.
I am recognising my need to find things that give me peace and joy. Previously, when I had free time to myself, I would most likely eat out and buy stuff. Today I felt I needed some self soothing, so after I dropped Stella off at kindy I went home and took the longest bath I think I have ever had. I then slept in the empty bath, and then gave myself a massage with the black sesame oil. I feel warm and fuzzy. Oh, the house is a bomb, but it can wait another day.
I thought I had a pretty good understanding of oxytocin and its role for childbirth and breastfeeding, but silly me had never thought to apply its principles to everyday life. What have I been missing out on!
Nourishing Newborn Mothers eBook
$30.00 AUD (+10% GST for Australian residents)
Ayurvedic recipes to heal your mind, body and soul after childbirth.