Polly from Copenhagen
Before Lalage was born, I felt like I was pregnant for 100 years – it was not an easy time to say the least! Lalage was an IVF baby and before I got pregnant with her, I had a miscarriage. I had met Julia and been to some of her talks during my first pregnancy, and found her to be a comfort after the miscarriage and in the run up to the second IVF attempt. After a tricky pregnancy with prescribed bedrest, my wonderful Lalage was born! The birth took a little time to recover from as it was not straightforward, and so I was pretty tired during those first six weeks (I’d be interested to find a mum who says they weren’t tired during this time, however!).
After an 8-day stay in hospital I was sent home, my husband went back to work and real life resumed. Without Julia I don’t think I would have managed – I had no idea what to do! It was such a comfort to know that somewhere in between the madness of crying and feeding, Julia would be visiting – with a friendly face, a shoulder to cry on and usually some delicious food! It was so nice to have someone non-judgmental to talk to. Initially that was what attracted me to Julia’s services – the company during what can be a lonely time. I had no idea then that her massages would be such a highlight! It was incredible to have some ‘me time’ and to feel that I was being looked after, while all my focus was on my daughter.
One of the unexpected bonuses of working with Julia was the friendships I made through her. Although I’ve sadly left Australia now, I’m still in contact with some of the amazing and inspirational mums I met through her. I was so very lucky to find a group of warm and welcoming women all experiencing a variation on what I was experiencing – some a few months ahead, some behind. Truly invaluable.
It’s hard to know which bit of the Julia experience I found most worthwhile – every element had a value. Perhaps it’s worth noting that I really didn’t realise how much things like the massage and the other mums would make a difference to me. Feeling connected to a group and part of something gave me a bit more confidence than I think I would have had otherwise, and eased what I think might have been a bleak time otherwise.
Breastfeeding didn’t work for me, which is still a mark of disappointment I carry with me. My in-laws are still crazy and my marriage is not as good as it once was, but I’m hoping it will improve as Lalage gets older and we get more settled. She remains AMAZING, of course.
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