Tania from Australia
The moment I realised that there was a little person about to join our family, I was desperate to give my child the very best of myself. I read and researched everything I could find on natural birth, breastfeeding and gentle parenting. I looked at motherhood as the biggest challenge of my life, and I felt excited for what was to be. Then, as the months went on, I started to feel a little unsure of myself. Had I overestimated my ability to cope? My husband was a wonderful source of comfort and it was he who suggested that we look at asking a postnatal doula to support us during those first few tender weeks of parenthood. Motherhood was to be my most important role yet, and I didn't want to just survive those first few precious weeks, I wanted to relish them!
Julia gave me permission to bask in the beauty of early motherhood. I didn't touch the housework and I kept the flow of eager visitors to a manageable few. Do you want to know what I did? I held my baby, I breastfed my baby, I spoke to my new daughter and I told her how much I loved her. I've had other mums tell me how they would hate to sit and do 'nothing' for six weeks. I respond by sharing my experience, which mirrors the postpartum traditions of numerous cultures around the world. Millions of mums can't be wrong!
Those first few weeks were incredible. Sure, I was tired and I had blistered nipples - and although I felt so emotionally raw and vulnerable I could feel the waves of oxytocin engulfing me. I have never loved so hard or felt so loved in return. It was an intense time, I can only wish that every new mother had the ability to feel as protected and nurtured as I did.
Julia, I think the most valuable gift that I received from you was not your soothing massages or your delicious food, but the fact that you introduced me to other new mothers. I have made some wonderful friends and I know that I can cry and laugh with these women and feel completely accepted. It takes a village to raise a child and I would say the same can be said for making a new mother.
Eighteen months on, I'm so happy being a mum. Of course I have those days where I cannot wait for bed o'clock, but I'm mostly very content! My husband and I have a wonderful bond with our little girl and we're both very pleased with how our little family has bloomed.
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